..........Am I Gay..........

This is not such a stupid question. Only those who are convinced that they are heterosexual can feel totally sure. I suspect you have an inkling that you might not be simply heterosexual, though, or you would never have got as far as this site, let alone this page. Not one child is brought up to be gay. All children are expected by their parents to be model heterosexuals. All kids are brought up with the expectation that they will find a partner of the opposite sex, that they will have children, and "do their duty" to perpetuate the species, and continue the family line. From birth we are tutored in our roles as future fathers and go about our lives confidently expected to marry, or breed, or both. At some point a few of us start to suspect that we are different. It isn't a sudden revelation, usually. It isn't often too much of a shock. Sometimes it is a revelation or a shock. Yet, even then, the shock comes from realization, and looking back all the signs can be seen. I'll start by taking me as an example. I just knew I was gay, I realized this around the age of 12, I was brought up on the central coast and had no brothers and 1 sister. Although I had 1 sexual contact with male at the age of 10 right up to the age of 13 I just knew I was attracted to males. But we are all different when it comes to sexuality. The guy who i played with was 1 year older than me, he's now married with a new born child. And i still alone... What about you? I Think I am gay? Start with one important thing. Almost all of us are attracted at some point to people of the same sex. Whether this is a "crush", or sexual excitement, or full blown love matters little. For most of us it truly is a phase and it passes. If your fantasies are totally about bodies of the same gender as you; if you desire only people of the same gender, more than one person, several people, lots of people; if you see people of the same gender and only the same gender when you masturbate or daydream; if you have a distaste for bodies of the opposite sex; if your fantasies leave nothing to the imagination, if these are true, then there is a ninety percent chance that you are and will remain gay. The more so if you feel that you want to spend your entire life with a person of the same gender as your physical and emotional partner. Only ninety percent, because emerging orientation is not fixed, and there is scope in your life to change as time passes. Weird but true. I may be bisexual? You find that you are genuinely sexually, erotically and emotionally attracted to people of either gender. Fantasies come about both genders in equal measure, or in a ratio that you enjoy. You have no particular preference about whether you want your life partner to be male or female. You are likely to be bisexual. Also the degree of attraction to one gender or the other may later, and you may develop to be homosexual or heterosexual. Simply be aware of the possibility. I am heterosexual? Probably you are, if your fantasies are about the opposite sex, and if you cannot see yourself having any form of sexual and emotional fulfillment with a person of the same sex. You may be here, reading this, because you experimented with a friend of the same sex, and are scared in case you are gay. You may be a parent, trying to understand your child, too. Experimentation is not homosexuality. Experimentation is fun, a shared experience, binding, if you like, but not homosexuality. So you are heterosexual. You knew that, though. But you wanted to check. Hang on. You doubt that any male can be 100% heterosexual! Porn videos. Heterosexual porn videos. Well there'd be little point in using homosexual ones as evidence, now would there? In almost every porn video there is 10% female solo masturbation, 15% lesbian action, and the remainder is supposedly heterosexual action. And when you study this heterosexual action you see something very odd. You see cocks. Erect cocks. Being sucked, being wanked, entering and leaving every suitable (female) orifice. The camera focuses on the cock. Hard focus on cocks the size of which leave you gasping and feeling inadequate, but on the cock. And the orgasm? The male orgasm? That happens in the open, under close camera scrutiny. We see the man masturbate to orgasm, and we see the semen leaving the tip of his cock, spurt after spurt. And we watch him deflate gently. This is not heterosexual behavior, watching this man have an orgasm. Add to porn videos the male behavior in changing rooms and at the urinal. All men look at other men's cocks. All men do this. All. "It's for comparison purposes". Yeah, right. It may be. But other men's cocks are fascinating. "Wow, what would that look like when it's hard?" I don't know about female outlooks. I know about male. Homosexuality is just beneath the surface for every male alive. It just takes a real man to admit it.